Here’s the situation: I (28M) am getting married next summer, and my fiancée (27F) and I are in the middle of planning the wedding. The guest list has been a bit of a sticking point, especially when it comes to whether or not to invite my sister (31F).
The Backstory:
Three years ago, my sister got married but didn’t invite me. Her reason? She wanted a very small wedding, only 20 guests, and since we weren’t super close at the time, I didn’t make the cut. I was really hurt, but I chose not to make a fuss to keep the peace within the family.
Fast Forward to Now:
My fiancée and I are planning a slightly larger wedding—about 50 people. We’re trying to keep it intimate, inviting only close friends and family. When the topic of inviting my sister came up, I hesitated. Since she didn’t consider me “close family” enough to invite to her wedding, part of me feels like it’s fair to return the favor.
My fiancée thinks we should invite her to avoid family drama, but I’m conflicted. I still feel hurt by being excluded from her wedding, and I can’t shake the feeling that inviting her would let her off the hook without addressing how much that decision affected me. A small part of me also feels like not inviting her might make her understand what it’s like to be left out.
My parents are pressuring me to “let it go” and extend the invitation, arguing that weddings should be about bringing family together. I haven’t made a final decision yet, but I’m torn between keeping the peace and standing by how I feel.
So, AITA for considering not inviting my sister to my wedding because she didn’t invite me to hers?
