I (21M) moved into an apartment with my roommate (21F) about five months ago. We were friends, and she found the place and asked me to be on the lease. I thought everything was going fine—I was respectful, we split chores, I always did my dishes, and there didn’t seem to be any tension between us.
Then one day, while I was out, she texted me saying she needed to talk when I got home. When I got back, she sat me down and told me she wanted me to move out. She said she didn’t think she wanted to keep living with me and had already spoken to the landlord and set a move-out date for January 1st.
I was completely blindsided, but I didn’t put up a fight. I figured there was no point staying somewhere I wasn’t wanted, so I agreed to leave. I scrambled to find a new place, and during the process, I had a realization: I paid for almost everything in the apartment.
The plates, couch, TV, Wi-Fi router (which I also paid the bill for), and pretty much all the “cool stuff” in the apartment were mine. So, I let her know I’d be taking everything I bought when I moved out. She said, “Okay.”
On move-out day, I rented a truck and packed up all my stuff. She wasn’t home, so when she came back, the apartment was practically empty. She immediately started blowing up my phone with texts and calls. When I answered, she was furious. She ranted about how I “shouldn’t have taken everything,” how bad the apartment looked now, and how she was supposed to explain it to her friends.
I calmly reminded her that I’d told her I was taking the things I bought, and she had agreed. She hung up on me but then started telling our mutual friends what happened. Now, some of them are calling me an a**hole for leaving her in a “bare apartment,” while others think I was in the right since it was all my stuff.
For the record, I didn’t leave her with nothing. I left the mini-fridge (though I took the liquor that was inside it), so I feel like I was at least somewhat considerate.
AITA?
