My sister (32F) got married last weekend, and while it was supposed to be the happiest day of her life, I (28F) am now being called “selfish” and “immature” by half of my family. I’m honestly questioning if I was in the wrong here.
For context, my sister and I have never been particularly close. She’s always been the “golden child,” while I’ve felt like the “leftover kid.” Our parents made this dynamic pretty obvious growing up. Despite that, I wanted to be supportive and agreed to be a bridesmaid when she asked me.
The wedding day started off fine. I showed up in my dress, got my hair done, smiled for photos—everything a bridesmaid is supposed to do. I even helped with some last-minute things before the ceremony. But then things took a turn during the reception.
During her speech, my sister thanked a long list of people who contributed to her “special day”—our parents, her in-laws, her husband, and the bridal party. Except she skipped me. She specifically thanked the other bridesmaids by name, but not me, even though I spent hours helping her with centerpieces, errands, and other tasks.
My boyfriend noticed and whispered, “Did she just skip you?” I tried to brush it off, thinking maybe it was a mistake.
But it got worse. Her maid of honor (her best friend since college) gave a speech and joked about being “the sister [my sister] never had.” The whole room laughed and clapped, while I sat there feeling humiliated. It was like I didn’t exist.
At that point, I was holding back tears and feeling so hurt. My boyfriend suggested we leave, and I agreed. I didn’t want to cry at the table and make a scene. So we left quietly.
The next day, my sister texted me, accusing me of “ruining her wedding” by “storming off.” I explained that I didn’t storm off—I left because I felt unappreciated and needed space. She doubled down, saying the day “wasn’t about me” and that I was “selfish for making it a big deal.”
Now, my mom and some aunts are siding with her, saying I was “disrespectful,” while my boyfriend and a few friends think I was treated unfairly.
So, Reddit, AITAH for leaving my sister’s wedding early?
