I (29F) am getting married in a few months to the love of my life, Jake (32M). Planning the wedding has been a dream, but a major source of stress has been my older sister, “Sarah” (34F). Sarah and I have always had a rocky relationship. She’s the “golden child” of the family and has always been competitive, especially when it comes to me.
Over the years, Sarah has repeatedly sabotaged my relationships. In high school, she flirted so much with my boyfriend that he dumped me to ask her out. She declined “because of me,” but the damage was already done. When I introduced her to my first serious boyfriend as an adult, she humiliated me by making fun of how I “snore like a truck” and joked about other personal quirks in front of him. He later admitted her comments planted doubts about me that contributed to our breakup.
When I started dating Jake, I made the mistake of introducing him to Sarah too soon. She was up to her old tricks again—calling him her “future brother-in-law” in a flirty tone, making passive-aggressive comments about my personality, and even telling him I wasn’t “the settling-down type.”
Thankfully, Jake saw through her antics and reassured me that he wasn’t affected by them. But I was. When I confronted Sarah about her behavior, she laughed it off, calling me “too sensitive” and saying I needed to learn how to take a joke. She never apologized.
After I got engaged, Sarah initially seemed excited, but her negative comments quickly resurfaced. She mocked my dress choice, made fun of our wedding theme, and even joked that I’d probably “chicken out” before walking down the aisle.
After a lot of soul-searching, I decided not to invite Sarah to my wedding. I don’t want her negativity or antics to overshadow one of the happiest days of my life. When I broke the news to her, she flipped out, accusing me of ruining our family dynamic and calling me “petty.” My parents are now pressuring me to reconsider, saying, “She’s your sister, and family is forever.”
But I feel justified in my decision. I deserve a drama-free wedding and some peace for once in my life.
So, AITAH for not inviting her?
